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Feature Article: Perspective:
That's
One Way to Look at it
From the Editor: Ways to see a C-section
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The
Law of Requisite Variety: The organism with the
greatest number of responses available to it,
is the organism that survives.
Formulated
by Ross Ashby
Feature
Article:
Perspective:
That’s One Way to Look at it
The way we see things makes a huge difference in our lives. Is
the glass half full or half empty? In reality both of these things
are true and how you look at it makes all the difference. Recognizing
if you naturally go to that place of half full or half empty is the first
step in realizing that you have a choice in how you see things. We
are all “in a perspective” about everything in our lives. Whatever
the situation is will remain the same, but how you are viewing it will
have tremendous power in how you experience it.
If you are going on a first date, to a meeting, or even on vacation,
but you are not looking forward to it, you are in a perspective. So
if you are going on a first date and “not looking forward” to
it, what are some other ways to see it that also have truth? The
important thing at this stage is not in choosing “the one,” but
simply realizing that there are multiple ways to see the same thing that
also are true. Is there part of you that could enjoy the anticipation
of the event? Is there a perspective that is humorous or ridiculous? Quite
often if we’ve had a bad experience once or even a few times we
will turn this into the way IT is and always will be. We forget
how much power we actually have in shaping each and every situation we
are in. So, don’t get caught in the trap of thinking that
is just the way it is because that is how it has always has been. Find
other perspectives that also have truth and expand your range of what
is possible!
Look at the following examples and notice your perspective:
Spending time with family is always…
Having children after 40 is…
Flying on an airplane is…
Notice how you may want to prove these statements as true or false and
then notice some other ways to answer them that are also true for you. When
you begin to practice seeing the same circumstances from different points
of view, you are empowered by the ability to choose. It’s
not about always choosing what others might think is the “ideal” perspective,
rather about letting go of “the one truth” and expanding
how you can respond based on what else is true for you. It seems
rather simple, but recognizing that there are many ways to look at the
same thing is vital to our quality of life.
Based on Co-Active Space 2001
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From
the Editor:
As
the birth of our daughter quickly approaches I have
had plenty of room for perspective work. The
biggest thing I’ve been confronted with lately
is that Katherine “Katie” Grace has been
breech since week 28. Now that I’m 38 weeks
along she is still showing no signs of going head down
so I am scheduled for a C-section. My initial
thoughts and feelings were that of disappointment and
sadness. I quickly processed through that and
made a decision to be grateful and happy that technology
could tell me so far in advance how she is positioned,
that she is growing healthy and to be able to plan
for the safest arrival of our little blessing. Expanding
my perspective on the possibility of C-section has
allowed these last weeks to still be filled with joy,
hope and positive anticipation. I am also still
holding onto the possibility that she will flip!!
Also,
we
recently went on a tour of the maternity ward at the
hospital where Katie will be born. There is a
brand new maternity wing with huge beautiful rooms
that look more like a nice hotel than a hospital. They
even have a jacuzzi and pictures that slide up and
down to hide some of the instruments - very high tech. On
the tour we were told that all C-section births recover
in the old maternity wing of the hospital in the small,
sterile, typical looking hospital rooms. Again I felt
a wave of sadness, disappointment and even injustice! The
least they could do is give people that have to have
C-sections and stay in the hospital longer better rooms,
right?! So, I saw where my mind immediately went
and looked at all the other things I could focus on
and got myself back to that place of gratitude again.
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Complimentary
Coaching Session
Learn More on Working with Perspectives
Helping a client understand that they are in a perspective and not stuck
with a certain reality is one of the most rewarding things I do as a professional
coach. If you'd like to explore more deeply a perspective you may be holding
about your life, your work, or a relationship, please contact me for a
free 30-minute professional coaching session. We will use specially
designed co-active coaching tools to help you understand exactly where
you are and to identify other perspectives that may work much better for
you!
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Coming
Next Month: The Power of Choice
Understanding perspectives
and identifying options is the place where we we
must start to determine an appropriate course of
action. We then must make a choice about how to proceed
and what change if any is needed. Next month,
we'll look at the power of choice. What does
it mean to be intentional about our choices 100%
of the time? What does it take to get conscious
of our choices?
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